I've had a few RP buddies that were like that - angst, torture, angst, suffering, angst, torture, and oh yeah, how 'bout some angst? and I just gave up after a while because it seemed like they were only interested in healing their characters up just enough to survive the next Horrible. Not to actually get them up, moving, and living good lives. It really is all about the balance.

But of course, you do have to knock them around some to see what makes them tick, and to make them appreciate their good times. Hopefully this is great for you and Bucky- this is the first time I've really played Rhys in a big, in-depth game and even though he's been in my head for several years now, I'm totally in new waters with him and it's great. :D They don't shine until you rough 'em up a bit, I guess.